Below I have provided you with some of my answers to the mental maintenance plan and some reasoning behind it. These are merely examples that I think will help you explore answers for yourself. No one person is the same and that is why I leave many of my questions open ended. You cannot be wrong unless you're negative. I hope you have enjoyed this journey as much as I have!
* When it comes to your mental strength, what aspects of the change process are you accountable for?*
1. Making positive choices
- You have the ability to decide what actions you take. To go a step further, you have the ability to decide what thoughts you listen to. Be confident and make the decision you feel is most correct.
2. Controlling what you can control (CWYCC)
- We have already covered this. You are accountable for controlling what you can control and nothing else. The understanding that it is ok to trust things/processes you can't control.
3. Managing my expectations
- I am accountable for making sure that my expectations match my reality so that I can properly manage my emotions.
4. How do I practice?
- Am I practicing just to pass time or am I practicing to get better? You are accountable for which one of those options gets chosen.
5. Abstaining from using curse words in a negative manner.
-Curse words are not always a bad thing. They have the power to pump you up more than regular stale words, but with that being said, they also have the power to degrade you more than regular stale words. Use them wisely.
6. How I respond to a golf shot
- You hit a golf shot that you absolutely hate, you are accountable for how you respond to said golf shot. Let's make sure that it is influencing positive behavior.
7. Notifying me of any setbacks.
- Be honest with yourself and with me. If you have a round where you just didn't do things correctly and you were a mental midget out there, you have to accept it and then make a game plan to prevent it in the future.
*What do you struggle with when it comes to being accountable?*
1. I find it hard to be honest with myself when......
- I am hitting good golf shots but just can't seem to get the ball into the hole.
- When nothing that I am doing seems to be going well.
- I am playing good but also against somebody better than me and I am losing.
2. Areas I should be more responsible in but at times struggle with are......
- Risk management - is the juice worth the squeeze?
- Appreciating the environment around me on a consistent basis
- Not associating good golf shots with good emotions and vice versa. (Don't let our highs get too high or our lows get to low)
1. I find it hard to be honest with myself when......
- I am hitting good golf shots but just can't seem to get the ball into the hole.
- When nothing that I am doing seems to be going well.
- I am playing good but also against somebody better than me and I am losing.
2. Areas I should be more responsible in but at times struggle with are......
- Risk management - is the juice worth the squeeze?
- Appreciating the environment around me on a consistent basis
- Not associating good golf shots with good emotions and vice versa. (Don't let our highs get too high or our lows get to low)
*How can you hold yourself accountable in a positive manner?
1. Create a culture of honesty (with yourself)
- When you notice that you are behaving in a way that is not beneficial, you must face that head on and then game plan on how to move past it.
- Learn to reassure yourself. This is something that you should be doing constantly. Always reminding yourself that you are going to be ok and to simply trust the process.
2. Accepting feedback without getting defensive.
- I know that I have given you information on the golf swing but at some point you are going to get curious and want a swing lesson, or you could just be playing with a friend.
- Don't allow them telling you what they see to affect your emotions. Take it with a grain of salt. If you like what they are saying, take it to the RANGE the next time and apply it. If you don't like what they are saying, simply take the advice, tell them you appreciate their opinion and how it into you mental trash can.
- It is more or less how you respond to the feedback than it is if you take it or not.
3. Admitting mistake upfront
- Don't allow yourself to tip toe behind telling me or yourself that you made a mistake. It is ok to have a mental breakdown, it is not ok for you to hide behind that mistake hoping that nobody finds out.
1. Create a culture of honesty (with yourself)
- When you notice that you are behaving in a way that is not beneficial, you must face that head on and then game plan on how to move past it.
- Learn to reassure yourself. This is something that you should be doing constantly. Always reminding yourself that you are going to be ok and to simply trust the process.
2. Accepting feedback without getting defensive.
- I know that I have given you information on the golf swing but at some point you are going to get curious and want a swing lesson, or you could just be playing with a friend.
- Don't allow them telling you what they see to affect your emotions. Take it with a grain of salt. If you like what they are saying, take it to the RANGE the next time and apply it. If you don't like what they are saying, simply take the advice, tell them you appreciate their opinion and how it into you mental trash can.
- It is more or less how you respond to the feedback than it is if you take it or not.
3. Admitting mistake upfront
- Don't allow yourself to tip toe behind telling me or yourself that you made a mistake. It is ok to have a mental breakdown, it is not ok for you to hide behind that mistake hoping that nobody finds out.